This is why Relationship Fails

This is why Relationship Fails

Survival is the fundamental instinct of every

life. But unlike animals, humans live not

just for survival but they live even for recognition,

they want recognition, they want their position

in this world to be recognised . The Instinct

to be the best and the drive to become best

is fundamental in their genes only so we tend

to compare our relationship with others relationship

and sometimes it happens that our relationship

so beautiful so so lovely but by comparing

it becomes so negative and bitter.

There is a Story of birds. A couple crow were

very happy with each other flying together

with each other going here and there going

everywhere together and very happy with each

other but when saw swam they thought they

are so bright and so good they look so beautiful

we are so ugly they became unhappy they were

very sad with their own looks and everything

so they went to swan and told swan you both

are so happy so bright so beautiful so lovely

Swan said i was also thinking like that till

i spotted peacock when i saw peacock i become

totally miserable and very unhappy what do

I have look the colours what peacocks have

how beautiful they are and do you know peacock

couple dance for each other i dont know how

to dance either they are dancing for each

other they are happy with each other they

look so beautiful i am not good

Now crows went to peacock and told peacock

that you are so beautiful we feel so miserable

look at us not happy at all you are so beautiful

you dance for each other so lovely to watch

you people and peacock finally said that i

was thinking like that till i saw you you

people are so happy both of you flying together

beautiful we cant do that we just cannot we

have some limitations in our flying also and

many other things you people have no limitation

you can fly so high you can be together for

hours there is no way we can compare with

you

We feel miserable when we see you so this

is a story that just tells when a person has

to watch himself he will find all goodness

within himself he will find all the positivity

within himself but if he starts comparing

with others what comes only misery only pain

suffering and frustation we start developing

unrealistic expectations jealousy inferiority

complex and that is not at all correct so

there are some tips that you reduce such attitude

of comparison even if you are the king of

the universe with slightest discontent you

become the poorest person

be content with the time you are giving to

each other be content with the growth which

is happening in your relationship and be content

with how you both are

Don’t allow social networking to bother

you imagine you open a facebook or instagram

and there you see a picture of your friend

having a beautiful vacation with his spouse

possibly some can become jealous and inferior

you have seen the picture you dont even know

what happened before this what is going to

happen after that dont allow all these social

media projection to affect you rather develop

a attitude that you will feel happy in others

happiness that is called as mudita in Yoga

Everyday write positive points which are happening

between your relationship in yoga the emphasis

on routine is very strong before going to

bed everyday better that you write 10 positive

points of your relationship and of your partner

this is an excellent exercise which would

help you to see all positive qualities in

your partner and the positive qualities with

each other you will start feeling how happy

and lucky you are to have each other together

Capture your happy moment mobile phone has

become everybody’s third hand capture all

your funny moments fun moments and happy moments

of your relationship and whenever you get

time keep revisiting those moments and feel

that joy and happiness at that moment also

you can make collage of all these photos and

bring that joy and happiness in your room

in your house make all such thing as your

hobby and hobby is very much required in our

life

Try to develop an attitude of feeling happiness

in others happiness in others success joy

and this attitude will really take you away

from frustration jealousy and negativity remember

this is the only medicine for the disease

called jealousy so can you learn to smile

when you see someone happy keep all these

points in mind remember everyone is unique

and so is every relationship

Namaskar