Ways to finish negative thoughts

Last time we had ended at the topic

When we create negative thoughts for other people
Yes, it causes depletion. I wanted to ask
If I think wrong about somebody
What is his fault, why does his energy get depleted?
It is not his fault.
He is receiving your energy.
How will we receive? Suppose he is in America, watching a movie.
And I send a thought from here but his focus is elsewhere. How will he receive it?
Energy is anyway travelling to him because it is created for him.
Like a WhatsApp message or an SMS.
That energy is created for him.
So he gets depleted?
Okay, let us take the opposite.
We seek blessings from people.
We say pray for me.
You are in a different city from him, he is in a different country.
Children call up parents to say - our exams begin tomorrow, pray for us.
The children are in a different country and parents are in India. How will prayers work?
It works, is it not?
Which means wherever we are
If we are praying for someone
We are sending them good wishes
That soul receives it.
God teaches us - you can sit in one place
And meditate for the entire world.
You can meditate for any soul who is in any part of the world.
Which means if we create a focused, positive energy for them
That soul will receive it.
We discussed about telepathy from France to Mumbai.
But both are expecting it.
Both were not expecting. When was sending and other was receiving.
But both were asked to check what they receive.
Whether you know or you do not know
Energy is reaching you.
So to make it simple it is like an SMS which definitely reaches.
But we cannot specifically catch the thought and say this person has sent it.
But energy is reaching the person.
Sometimes I wonder why I feel sad.
Sometimes I feel why am I thinking negative about somebody.
Maybe because that could be some negative energy coming from that side.
But I can't make out if I am thinking or it is coming from the other side.
Why am I thinking about it? So I cut the thought but it still comes back.
That is why we need to pay attention to our Karma.
Let us not do any Karma
Because of which somebody who is sitting at a distance, also feels disturbed.
If you just scold somebody on your way back
You forgot about it.
But the one you scolded has not forgotten.
If he is not thinking good for us
Like you mentioned that you suddenly feel low.
Sometimes I don't get nice thoughts about somebody. It is not hatred but the quality of thoughts is not good.
So that time I feel there could be a heavy energy coming from that side.
Yes it is possible. But still we have the power to change it.
Yes I wanted to know about it.
That if you can just like that deplete my energy.
What is the solution to protect myself?
When we are creating negative thoughts for somebody
The vibration goes to them and depletes their energy
Unless they are taking care of themselves.
Majority are not taking care of themselves.
How do we take care?
They are living in an automatic way of living where thoughts come and go.
We feel that particular way of thinking is natural.
If you are aware
Even if wrong thoughts are getting created for somebody
There is an option that it is coming from the other side.
Either ways, whether we are creating it
Or whether it is coming from them
We have the power to change it.
So what we saw last time
I did not understand about the power to change.
How do I change when I am getting that energy?
How do you change your thought?
Do I send back good energy?
There is no sending, it is about creating.
It is - creating.
Suppose right now you are creating wrong thoughts for me.
Thoughts are going on - she is wrong, she is bad.
She always does like this - suppose such thoughts are coming to you.
There are two options - either you are creating that thought
Or I am creating some such thought and sending to you
But either way, what is the result?
That negative thoughts are getting created in you.
If negative thoughts are going on in your mind
You will start thinking negative about me.
You have the power to change your thoughts, is it not?
But can you give me an example of how to change?
Suppose I am creating a thought from here - this person is wrong
He is bad, he does not listen to me
He disrespects me.
A similar energy gets created within you.
But her ego is too high.
She always wants us to obey her.
Something like that.
Can you not change your thoughts now?
I can only take my thoughts elsewhere.
By taking them elsewhere how will the thoughts change?
Suppose these thoughts are going on in your mind
She has a lot of ego and controlling nature.
She is very manipulative.
These thoughts are getting created in you.
Now if you start thinking - this tree is beautiful, the garden is beautiful.
It is not connected but even if you go elsewhere for 2 minutes in your thoughts
You moved from that thought
But I can actually change it by saying the opposite
If I create thoughts - she is fine, everything will be fine.
Maybe I have misunderstood something.
I was also like that but I changed.
She will also change.
I can send blessings.
So it is done.
What is the technique?
We know what the wrong thoughts are.
We also know the right thoughts.
The mind is experiencing wrong thoughts.
It could be our creation are coming from the other person.
Either ways what is going on, on the screen of our mind right now?
It is negative. So what should we replace it with?
We need to type something else here.
Now you started creating a different series of thoughts.
As soon as you started creating such thoughts
It is fine, it is her perspective
Maybe I did not understand.
As soon as you started creating such thoughts
Your screen of the mind got cleaned first.
And I started receiving positive thoughts.
And when they reach me, my thoughts from here start changing.
Suppose it does not change from my side.
Suppose there is so much negativity within me
If my Sanskar of negativity is so strong
I see everything wrong in you
At least I will not absorb them.
I am not absorbing because I am sending blessings.
Right, and what are you creating?
This is the equation and we have to be very clear with the equation.
We cannot say people are thinking negative for us.
Whether people are thinking negative for me or I am creating it myself
I have the choice to change.
At any point
Just stop, check your thought, and change.
Again look at the thought, what quality was it? Change.
At any point we have the power.
At least now I am realising
That if I am getting wrong thoughts about anyone I should stop it.
Earlier even after half an hour
After everything I would remember about what I thought about somebody.
That is exactly the point. That is why we discussed earlier
That if we send negative energy to somebody
And they are unaware, it depletes them.
Now what is happening? You are aware.
So you change your thinking
So depletion does not happen.
Earlier if I was watching news and breaking news segment would flash at the bottom of the screen
I could not focus on one thing.
By evening I would feel I did not do anything today but why am I tired?
This is depletion.
We should know what is depletion of the soul.
And what is empowerment of the soul.
What is discharging and what is charging.
Who is a powerful soul and who is a weak soul.
What did a weak soul do?
Thinks negatively for the whole day, feels heavy and tired by end of the day.
What did a strong soul do?
Was aware when a negative thought was created, could see that thought.
Checked and changed it.
Conserved energy.
Apart from feeling tired towards evening despite doing nothing throughout the day
I would also wake up tired in the morning.
Instead of feeling fresh.
It is a way of living.
Sadness, anger
It becomes a way of living.
Dullness, not feeling happy, don't feel like going anywhere.
Don't even feel like smiling even when others are having a good time.
We had a teacher at school. When we wish good morning, he would ask - what so good about the morning?
That becomes a way of living.
It will happen even early morning. Where has the thought changed?
The whole day it was going on.
Energy. It was going on the whole day.
Slept at night with the same thoughts.
Which means we wake up also with the same thoughts.
That is why they say at least before going to bed at night, change your thoughts.
When people write a diary for make notes, what is the meaning of that?
Meaning is that whatever was created during the day
At least before going to sleep
It has to be cleansed.
Writing it means finish it.
Of what we did the whole day?
If something is disturbing the mind
Write it which means finish it.
Pray, meditate, connect to God, talk to Him and finish that matter.
It means it will not get carried forward to the next today.
But why should we wait until night?
The whole day goes on with so much depletion.
The moment we get success thoughts - everybody can do this as a homework today.
We need to begin a practice.
We are in an environment where negative thinking is
Common, normal and natural.
That vibration is around us.
People with whom we live and work
For many of them, negative thinking could be natural.
Their negative vibrations are coming to us.
Besides, we might also be creating negative thoughts.
Either ways, now we have to know that we have the power to change the thoughts.
So with awareness we should start a practice
When that thought comes
We experience that thought.
We may even be surprised how we could think that way.
Let us not just stop there.
Let us pause at that moment and change the thought.
If the negative thoughts come again
Once again pause and again change.
When we start doing this repeatedly
The mind will learn
A different way of thinking.
It becomes a practice. We can do it.
If somebody talks rudely, we will respond with love.
Date of rudely again but we again respond with love.
After a while we say that is his habit and this is my habit.
We did not change our way of speaking by getting influenced by their way of speaking.
If we can do it at the level of words
We can do it at the level of thoughts.
Let me read something connected to this.
Peace doesn't require two people.
Peace doesn't require two people.
It requires only one.
It has to be - You.
The problem begins and ends there.
That has to be underlined.
Where does the problem begin and end?
With me.
Which means no matter what the other person is doing
Problem begins and ends here.
You had mentioned in 1 episode that energy exchange goes on like a ping-pong
Even if one person stops playing, the game gets over.
Earlier we thought the problem begins and ends there.
He made a mistake so he is the problem.
That fellow takes out the worst in me.
So earlier the equation was
The problem begins and ends there.
The other person created the problem so he has to resolve it.
So we kept on giving them advice to change.
That everything will be fine once you change.
So we thought the problem begins and ends there.
Now it says the problem begins and ends here.
Peace is possible with only one person.
So many people ask me
Where is Brahma Kumaris centre, and I respond.
Can I ask them why, they say they want to send their wife there.
Because she has to change.
And the women tell my wife that their husbands have to go to the centre.
They say - He needs to change.
This is a very deep belief system.
Because we are right from our perspective.
Again we are coming back to the same thing that we are right from our perspective.
But the other person's perspective is different from ours.
When two people's perspectives are different
Issues and conflicts crop up.
We feel - who is the cause of the conflict?
They. So who has to change? They.
Because if the change, I will be at peace.
From what I have seen, even if thousands of situations change
Unless I change, everything will seem the same.
I had shared in one of the episodes
When will lived in a single bedroom house my wife would ask me why I get so irritated. We just had one room and so many of us lived there and even eat in the same place.
And then we moved on to bigger houses including a bungalow
Even if I am alone I still get irritated.
Which means it is here.
This is deep realisation. Deep realisation That peace begins with only one person. Even if everybody is opinion is different If we correct our recording here We will be at peace And we will radiate peace. Every time we only have to take one decision - it's me. I can resolve this issue. I can finish this problem. I can harmonize this relationship. It's I. Earlier you said - they. And when things got a little better we said - together, we. Both of us will together set things right. Now it says - only I. Earlier I would not believe I would say we work so hard in the shop and later I joined movies. We have worked 24 hours a day. Whereas Yogis reside in the mountains They don't have to manage families so their life is easy. They have no problems. They only sit there and meditate. But now I can understand They contribute so much to the world peace. You mentioned that we can meditate for the whole world. When yogi sitting there can generate so much of peace. If he can do it for the entire Universe we can also do it even at home. Today a majority of us in the world are creating negative vibrations. A lot. But how is the universe still sustained? Because there are a few such souls Who are radiating very powerful, focused, peaceful energy. Just like how they can do it We can also do it. And we can do it while living at home Even while discharging all our responsibilities We can still create peace. We are actually doing it and seeing the difference in ourselves. If we just check ourselves today How much negativity would we create earlier And how much we create today. If I just evaluate myself Even if I got a negative WhatsApp message I would forward it to 100 people. Later I would share it with 50 people. Now I delete it even before reading. It is it is a message but still you are able to check yourself. Now I don't like those things. I try to send very positive messages. Now check at the level of thinking. That was checking that the information level. About how much negativity we will spread earlier. Whatever message we received, we would share it with everyone. And later we completely stopped it. First we stopped sharing and now we have stopped even reading them. That is one checking. Now you are sending positive messages. Not check at the level of thinking. As a person I checking for me, myself - how much shift Everyone can check today how much shift the experience. Earlier how many negative thoughts would I have created? And today how far have we reached. Not only thoughts. Even when we just scold somebody. Words and behaviour. We would not even remember what we did. Now we remember the whole day that we scolded someone. Earlier it used to be normal. Earlier it used to get justified also. We will justify our anger so why would we check? We thought it was normal and natural. We even justified that the other person was wrong. This is justification. Earlier we thought, if we speak lovingly, people don't listen to us. So my anger was justified. What is the belief system now? No matter what the other person does How should I speak to him? I have to speak to him with love. So even if the other person is wrong And if we create anger, we realise it now. And say this was not the way. Realisation happened at the level of words. No matter what energy comes from people, my words should be right. Same at the level of thoughts now. Would our thinking also have changed by now? How much negative thinking would go on earlier and how is it now? A lot of difference as behaviour has changed because of it Because thinking has changed. No some people can do it in behaviour alone. Yes some people doing it artificially is a different matter. Then check for yourself. We need to check for ourselves. How much negative would we think earlier and now how much do we think? It is going hand in hand in my case. There is a lot of difference in my behaviour and in my thoughts. Even if I get a negative thought I cut it. You didn't have to leave your house to do all this. Didn't leave the house or take Sanyas. You are doing all your work even today. Your family is with you and it is extended even more. A big family so even responsibilities have increased. You mentioned the list of responsibilities. Everything is going on even now. So realisation. Yes you will not feel tired because you are creating good thoughts. Even your actions are good, so you are getting blessings from the other side. You feel light and energetic. Why will you feel tired? But conclude for yourself The way we think and behave It has nothing to do with situations and people outside. This is a wonderful line. Whatever we think Whatever we speak However we behave It has nothing to do with people and situations. But only on me. That was the quotation. Peace is only about me. The problem begins and ends here. Earlier we would say somebody is a Sanyasi who lives in an Ashram or in mountains. It is not a big thing for them to be peaceful. Let them be peaceful remaining here. Now you did it and saw the result. You yourself did and saw the result. That is right but it is not easy. That is a different lifestyle of a tapasvi. The purpose of their life Is different. Their purpose is different. Not just for themselves, but for the whole world they meditate. Even our purpose matches with theirs because we are also changing our environment. If we change the environment at home, staff will be happy. Their wives will be happy. If my son is happy then his children will be happy. Everything is interconnected. But when you do it only at your home Even those vibrations radiate to the universe. It is radiated to the whole universe and not just to your house. How? Vibrations are radiating all around us. That is it, so your radiating your vibration. So each one, when we create a change We are contributing to world change. Every time each one brings a change in themselves They are contributing to world change. Bring a change in ourselves means? When you changed you are thinking, you radiated peace to the world. Earlier when you would get angry or wrong thoughts You were radiating aggression to the world. So let us all change, and change the world. Of course.  
This is deep realisation.
Deep realisation
That peace begins with only one person.
Even if everybody is opinion is different
If we correct our recording here
We will be at peace
And we will radiate peace.
Every time we only have to take one decision - it's me.
I can resolve this issue.
I can finish this problem.
I can harmonize this relationship.
It's I. Earlier you said - they.
And when things got a little better we said - together, we.
Both of us will together set things right.
Now it says - only I.
Earlier I would not believe
I would say we work so hard in the shop and later I joined movies.
We have worked 24 hours a day.
Whereas Yogis reside in the mountains
They don't have to manage families so their life is easy.
They have no problems.
They only sit there and meditate.
But now I can understand
They contribute so much to the world peace.
You mentioned that we can meditate for the whole world.
When yogi sitting there can generate so much of peace.
If he can do it for the entire Universe we can also do it even at home.
Today a majority of us in the world are creating negative vibrations. A lot. But how is the universe still sustained? Because there are a few such souls Who are radiating very powerful, focused, peaceful energy. Just like how they can do it We can also do it. And we can do it while living at home Even while discharging all our responsibilities We can still create peace. We are actually doing it and seeing the difference in ourselves. If we just check ourselves today How much negativity would we create earlier And how much we create today. If I just evaluate myself Even if I got a negative WhatsApp message I would forward it to 100 people. Later I would share it with 50 people. Now I delete it even before reading. It is it is a message but still you are able to check yourself. Now I don't like those things. I try to send very positive messages. Now check at the level of thinking. That was checking that the information level. About how much negativity we will spread earlier. Whatever message we received, we would share it with everyone. And later we completely stopped it. First we stopped sharing and now we have stopped even reading them. That is one checking. Now you are sending positive messages. Not check at the level of thinking. As a person I checking for me, myself - how much shift Everyone can check today how much shift the experience. Earlier how many negative thoughts would I have created? And today how far have we reached. Not only thoughts. Even when we just scold somebody. Words and behaviour. We would not even remember what we did. Now we remember the whole day that we scolded someone. Earlier it used to be normal. Earlier it used to get justified also. We will justify our anger so why would we check? We thought it was normal and natural. We even justified that the other person was wrong. This is justification. Earlier we thought, if we speak lovingly, people don't listen to us. So my anger was justified. What is the belief system now? No matter what the other person does How should I speak to him? I have to speak to him with love. So even if the other person is wrong And if we create anger, we realise it now. And say this was not the way. Realisation happened at the level of words. No matter what energy comes from people, my words should be right. Same at the level of thoughts now. Would our thinking also have changed by now? How much negative thinking would go on earlier and how is it now? A lot of difference as behaviour has changed because of it Because thinking has changed. No some people can do it in behaviour alone. Yes some people doing it artificially is a different matter. Then check for yourself. We need to check for ourselves. How much negative would we think earlier and now how much do we think? It is going hand in hand in my case. There is a lot of difference in my behaviour and in my thoughts. Even if I get a negative thought I cut it. You didn't have to leave your house to do all this. Didn't leave the house or take Sanyas. You are doing all your work even today. Your family is with you and it is extended even more. A big family so even responsibilities have increased. You mentioned the list of responsibilities. Everything is going on even now. So realisation. Yes you will not feel tired because you are creating good thoughts. Even your actions are good, so you are getting blessings from the other side. You feel light and energetic. Why will you feel tired? But conclude for yourself The way we think and behave It has nothing to do with situations and people outside. This is a wonderful line. Whatever we think Whatever we speak However we behave It has nothing to do with people and situations. But only on me. That was the quotation. Peace is only about me. The problem begins and ends here. Earlier we would say somebody is a Sanyasi who lives in an Ashram or in mountains. It is not a big thing for them to be peaceful. Let them be peaceful remaining here. Now you did it and saw the result. You yourself did and saw the result. That is right but it is not easy. That is a different lifestyle of a tapasvi. The purpose of their life Is different. Their purpose is different. Not just for themselves, but for the whole world they meditate. Even our purpose matches with theirs because we are also changing our environment. If we change the environment at home, staff will be happy. Their wives will be happy. If my son is happy then his children will be happy. Everything is interconnected. But when you do it only at your home Even those vibrations radiate to the universe. It is radiated to the whole universe and not just to your house. How? Vibrations are radiating all around us. That is it, so your radiating your vibration. So each one, when we create a change We are contributing to world change. Every time each one brings a change in themselves They are contributing to world change. Bring a change in ourselves means? When you changed you are thinking, you radiated peace to the world. Earlier when you would get angry or wrong thoughts You were radiating aggression to the world. So let us all change, and change the world. Of course.  
Today a majority of us in the world are creating negative vibrations.
A lot.
But how is the universe still sustained?
Because there are a few such souls
Who are radiating very powerful, focused, peaceful energy.
Just like how they can do it
We can also do it.
And we can do it while living at home
Even while discharging all our responsibilities
We can still create peace.
We are actually doing it and seeing the difference in ourselves.
If we just check ourselves today
How much negativity would we create earlier
And how much we create today.
If I just evaluate myself
Even if I got a negative WhatsApp message
I would forward it to 100 people.
Later I would share it with 50 people.
Now I delete it even before reading.
It is it is a message but still you are able to check yourself.
Now I don't like those things.
I try to send very positive messages.
Now check at the level of thinking.
That was checking that the information level.
About how much negativity we will spread earlier.
Whatever message we received, we would share it with everyone.
And later we completely stopped it.
First we stopped sharing and now we have stopped even reading them.
That is one checking.
Now you are sending positive messages.
Not check at the level of thinking. As a person
I checking for me, myself - how much shift
Everyone can check today how much shift the experience.
Earlier how many negative thoughts would I have created?
And today how far have we reached.
Not only thoughts. Even when we just scold somebody.
Words and behaviour.
We would not even remember what we did.
Now we remember the whole day that we scolded someone.
Earlier it used to be normal.
Earlier it used to get justified also.
We will justify our anger so why would we check?
We thought it was normal and natural.
We even justified that the other person was wrong.
This is justification.
Earlier we thought, if we speak lovingly, people don't listen to us.
So my anger was justified.
What is the belief system now? No matter what the other person does
How should I speak to him?
I have to speak to him with love.
So even if the other person is wrong
And if we create anger, we realise it now.
And say this was not the way.
Realisation happened at the level of words.
No matter what energy comes from people, my words should be right.
Same at the level of thoughts now.
Would our thinking also have changed by now?
How much negative thinking would go on earlier and how is it now?
A lot of difference as behaviour has changed because of it
Because thinking has changed.
No some people can do it in behaviour alone.
Yes some people doing it artificially is a different matter.
Then check for yourself.
We need to check for ourselves.
How much negative would we think earlier and now how much do we think?
It is going hand in hand in my case.
There is a lot of difference in my behaviour and in my thoughts.
Even if I get a negative thought I cut it.
You didn't have to leave your house to do all this.
Didn't leave the house or take Sanyas.
You are doing all your work even today.
Your family is with you and it is extended even more.
A big family so even responsibilities have increased.
You mentioned the list of responsibilities.
Everything is going on even now.
So realisation.
Yes you will not feel tired because you are creating good thoughts.
Even your actions are good, so you are getting blessings from the other side.
You feel light and energetic.
Why will you feel tired?
But conclude for yourself
The way we think and behave
It has nothing to do with situations and people outside.
This is a wonderful line.
Whatever we think
Whatever we speak
However we behave
It has nothing to do with people and situations.
But only on me.
That was the quotation.
Peace is only about me.
The problem begins and ends here.
Earlier we would say somebody is a Sanyasi who lives in an Ashram or in mountains.
It is not a big thing for them to be peaceful. Let them be peaceful remaining here.
Now you did it and saw the result.
You yourself did and saw the result.
That is right but it is not easy.
That is a different lifestyle of a tapasvi. The purpose of their life Is different. Their purpose is different. Not just for themselves, but for the whole world they meditate. Even our purpose matches with theirs because we are also changing our environment. If we change the environment at home, staff will be happy. Their wives will be happy. If my son is happy then his children will be happy. Everything is interconnected. But when you do it only at your home Even those vibrations radiate to the universe. It is radiated to the whole universe and not just to your house. How? Vibrations are radiating all around us. That is it, so your radiating your vibration. So each one, when we create a change We are contributing to world change. Every time each one brings a change in themselves They are contributing to world change. Bring a change in ourselves means? When you changed you are thinking, you radiated peace to the world. Earlier when you would get angry or wrong thoughts You were radiating aggression to the world. So let us all change, and change the world. Of course.  
That is a different lifestyle of a tapasvi.
The purpose of their life
Is different.
Their purpose is different.
Not just for themselves, but for the whole world they meditate.
Even our purpose matches with theirs because we are also changing our environment.
If we change the environment at home, staff will be happy. Their wives will be happy.
If my son is happy then his children will be happy.
Everything is interconnected.
But when you do it only at your home
Even those vibrations radiate to the universe.
It is radiated to the whole universe and not just to your house.
How?
Vibrations are radiating all around us.
That is it, so your radiating your vibration.
So each one, when we create a change
We are contributing to world change.
Every time each one brings a change in themselves
They are contributing to world change.
Bring a change in ourselves means?
When you changed you are thinking, you radiated peace to the world.
Earlier when you would get angry or wrong thoughts
You were radiating aggression to the world.
So let us all change, and change the world.
Of course.  
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